Read our guide explaining why it can feel like we’re alone after a bereavement and what can be done to help overcome these feelings.
Why do we often feel lonely after a bereavement?
Just as grief affects everyone in different ways at different times, the way we experience loneliness can be very different too.
If you lived with the person who died, if they were your husband, wife, partner, family member or friend, it can be hard to get used to them not being there with you. You may have a big support network around you, with plenty of people visiting, but that can’t replace the constant companionship you had, so it’s normal to feel lonely.
If the person you were caring for has died, as well as the companionship that you’ll be missing, their death could leave you feeling lost without a sense of purpose. If you’ve been a carer for a long time, you might not have had the opportunity to build the social support systems that can be so important after a bereavement, according to Carers UK The World Shrinks report, 81% of carers have felt socially isolated because of their role.
You may find that friends and family struggle to know what to say after the death of someone close to you, so perhaps don’t get in touch with you as much as you’d like. The worry that they might say something to upset you may stop them getting in touch or inviting you to social events, leaving you feeling lonely and unsupported.