How to give a funeral a truly personal touch
Just as couples are now putting their own spin on wedding ceremonies, funerals are also getting the bespoke treatment.
In fact, a report by Co-op found just 10% of us want a traditional religious funeral, while over a third (36%) said they want friends and family to have a get-together to celebrate their life instead of a full funeral service.
Samantha Tyrer, managing director of Co-op Funeralcare, says, ‘Our funerals represent the unique life an individual has lived. Today, we’re seeing a lot more requests for wonderfully personalised ceremonies, whether that’s on the 18th hole of a golf course or having a pet dog there on the day.’
Apart from the ceremony, what other unique funeral ideas can we organise? Find out what’s involved in our tailored funeral below.
Meaningful flower arrangements
Flowers are a popular part of many funerals, but you can choose something more personal than a wreath or spray. Co-op florist Jane Collingbourne says, ‘We’ve had all sorts of requests over the years: 3D arrangements, a smiley face emoji – and we’ve even created a floral tribute around a vinyl record.’
Other quirky creations include Del Boy’s van from Only Fools and Horses, a family’s beloved lorry and a packet of Werther’s Original! Our report also revealed that sports teams, hobbies and pets are popular choices for bespoke floral arrangements.
Transport of all types
Nearly 50% of our funeral directors have been asked to source a particular vehicle for a funeral. Requests have included a canal boat, a milk float, a motorcycle, and a tractor – with trailer. If your loved one was passionate about an activity, such as cycling, this can also be incorporated into their funeral procession.
If you’d prefer something more traditional, but still with a bespoke touch, arrange a personalised ‘wrap’ – a covering that goes around the hearse. Choose from a set design or you could include a photo of your loved one. We also have a rainbow-coloured hearse available, or one adorned with poppies.
Create a unique coffin
There’s a lot more choice for coffins than the type of wood – or wool or wicker – to consider for your loved one. Were they a singer or a big music fan? A fitting personal tribute could be a coffin decorated with musical notes. A glitter lover? We’ve got that covered, too.
You can also ask for memorable items to be placed beside them. ‘I once conducted a funeral for a very keen fisherman,’ says Kenny Mclachlan, Co-op funeral director. ‘The gentleman was dressed in full fishing gear, including his deerstalker hat and waders, and we placed his fishing rod inside his wicker coffin.’
Music that matters
You can have any music you like, from traditional hymns to chart hits, TV themes or even live music. Popular songs, like Frank Sinatra’s My Way, are firm funeral favourites, as are light-hearted tunes such as Always Look on the Bright Side of Life. What music would you choose?
Find out how we can arrange a tailored funeral service, including unusual locations, colour themes or unique touches like fancy dress.